Grindr Survivr: How to Find Happiness in the Age of Hookup Apps by Londyn Andrew

Author:Londyn, Andrew [Londyn, Andrew]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2017-03-24T16:00:00+00:00

“I’m looking for something more long term, but happy to do mates and dates till then.”

“I’m ultimately looking for a boyfriend, but I’m really picky, yet I’m open to whatever.”

These are some ways where you can hint that you want more than NSA but not look like someone who’s using Oprah’s “Secret,” praying for a boyfriend every day.

3A) “No Agenda” Is The Worst Response Ever

I HATE people who say, “I don’t have an agenda,” or “I’m not looking for anything in particular.” First, you’re fucking lying! We ALL have an agenda. Grindr is one giant clash of agendas! We all want something. It’s either to get laid, find a boyfriend, or get an ego boost. All Grindr activity leads to one of those three destinations. So let’s be honest with ourselves.

If someone gives me the “no agenda” line, I try to push back gently. “Everyone’s looking for something on here ;P” That’s when I might add what I’m looking for. But if they stick to the “no agenda” line after you’ve told them you’re looking for dates, then they’re either sluts in disguise or completely wasting your time. Either way, they probably won’t make a good boyfriend. Just look at this in the entire context of the conversation and see how you feel .

4) What kind of qualities do you look for in a guy? (Use Rarely)

Use this question only if you're looking for a long-term relationship and he says he’s also looking for a long-term relationship. But this is a way to find common ground. How people respond is EXTREMELY telling about what they are really looking for. If the guy lists superficial qualities (aka big cock, blond hair, muscles), then you probably know he’s not a deep or thoughtful person. If the guy lists emotional qualities (kindness, big heart, thoughtful, caring), then you know you’ve got someone who is more relationship oriented.

5) What's your longest relationship? (Use Carefully BEFORE you meet)

Use this VERY carefully. Don’t bring this up in the wrong context or early on in your initial chats. It needs to flow out from a nice conversation that’s moving in the right direction. But it gives you immense insights.

I was chatting with a guy in his late 30s—tall, Australian, very handsome. We met for coffee. And we were talking about dating in a big city, so I asked, “So what’s your longest relationship?” He came out with, “I’ve never had a boyfriend before.”

What…

The…

FUCK!

I was very polite. And I didn’t blow up. But I wanted to scream, “WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL ME YOUR ASS WAS CRAZY!” RED ALERT. SIRENS.

All of this was blaring in the back of my head. If you’re 21 and never had a boyfriend, that’s fine. But if you’re knocking on FORTY and never had a relationship, then something is definitely wrong. This guy was stunning, but it ended up being a complete waste of time. What’s worse is he demanded we meet on the other side of town, so I traveled for nearly an hour to meet him, and I had to travel an hour home.

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